Patience Newbury

Threadbare necessities without the bare niceties.

You: “Hey, you know you sorta look like that other woman on this website.” /// Patience: “You don’t say...” /// You: “You’re not fooling anyone.” /// Patience: “Of course not. I never promised I was anything greater than an avatar.” /// You: “Deceiver.” /// Patience: “areyouserious.gif”

45g of witty ripostes. This stuff is like beluga caviar, but far more humane and far less tasty. No reason to hazard a guess on its nutritional facts: there are none.

Obviously, Patience is a can with a preposterous shelf life. Patience is also a hesitant writer. Maybe an advocate. And, definitely, a social hub, amongst #folkslikeus and #girlslikeus, for a really, long, time (because Walken comma).

Her sporadic writings began in 1998. She launched the collaborative Cisnormativity Project in 2011. Between 1998 and 2001, the woman behind the avatar was plaintiff and made case law in the first-ever civil justice case of its kind anywhere; several other legal cases, some realizing the justice she never knew, have surfaced in the years since. In 1996, she was cast in the first production of Kate Bornstein’s “Hidden: a Gender” not involving the playwright. At age 13, her parents institutionalized her less than a week after learning she was trans. She ran away from domestic violence at 16 and voiced as trans two years later.

In January 2012, Patience created a set of designs (inspired by the Shit White People Say meme) called Shit Stuff Cis People Say. The series accidentally birthed dead name (a noun) and dead-naming (a verb). She also posted “Maybe you should never transition” around the same time.

For a couple of years, Patience wrote using the pen name Ententa’s Magic to unpack specific social barriers to being a trans woman in a city influenced for decades by the now-defanged Gender Identity Clinic at the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health. She observed how one need not be a product or survivor of the clinic to feel its grip over the social and structural health of an institutionally regulated community of people.

Patience is a survivor of complex PTSD and has lived with major depression since diagnosis at age 10. You can find her on Twitter and other places.

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