Patience Newbury

Threadbare necessities with the bare niceties.

You, motive unknown: “Hey, you know you sorta look like that other woman... uh, person on this website.” /// Patience: “Really...” /// You, a cis TERF: “You know you don’t fool anyone.” /// Patience: “Gosh, I hope not. I never said I was anything more than an avatar.” /// You, a raging cis TERF and a crypto-fascist: “Deceiver! The whole lot of you!” /// Patience: “areyouserious.gif”

45g of witty ripostes. This looks like beluga caviar, but I promise I’m way less tasty. No reason to hazard a guess on my nutritional facts: there are none.

Obviously, Patience is a can way past her printed shelf life. Patience is also a writer. Sometimes an advocate. And, definitely, a kind of social hub, for #folkslikeus and #girlslikeus, for a really, long, time (because Walken comma). Patience responds to she/her/hers.

Her writings on trans stuff began around 1998. She launched the collaborative Cisnormativity Project in 2011. Between 1998 and 2001, the woman who uses this avatar was plaintiff and made case law in the first-ever civil justice case of its kind anywhere. Several other legal cases, some realizing a civil justice she never found, have arisen since. In 1996, she was cast in the first production of Kate Bornstein’s “Hidden: a Gender” not involving the playwright. At 13, her parents institutionalized her less than a week after learning she was trans. She ran away from domestic violence at 16 and voiced as trans two years later.

In January 2012, Patience produced a design series called Shit Cis People Say (owing its inspiration to Shit White People Say). The series gave accidental birth to dead name (a noun) and dead-naming (a verb). She also wrote a key essay, “Maybe you should never transition,” around the same time.

For a spell, Patience wrote with another pen name, Ententa’s Magic, to unpack particular structural barriers facing trans women (and trans people more generally) in a city dominated for decades by a now-defanged Gender Identity Clinic at the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health (once The Clarke Institute). She observed how one need not be a product or survivor of the clinic to bear witness to its grip over the social health of an institutionally regulated community of people and the shared geography they inhabit with the deprecated clinic.

Patience is healing from complex PTSD. She lives with major depression (since diagnosis at age 10), now in remission. You may find her on bird site or Masto if you look hard enough.

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