If it makes you feel any better, you are a bigger and better cow than I. I don’t know the details of your past, but I’ve not seen my father for nearly 20 years, and I intend never to. I won’t invite him to graduations, my wedding, etc. I have zero interest in reconciliation.

I give you props for even trying.

Moo.

Cheers. Not exactly easy reading.

Sadly, in ways, he sounds like my dad (and probably many other dads, to the great misfortune of many). I find the avg person has a confused notion of family. Reality kinda dictates that it isn’t something you’re born with or into. “Family” is something people manage, or fail, to build during the shared time of their lives, that just commonly happens to be with those of blood relation.

Not to say that I’ve ever met your dad, but his description is consistent with that of a person who’s at least a tad short on the amount of responsibility that any family requires, just based on the very familiar-sounding levels of evasiveness and blame. He sounds like someone motivated more by some confused amount of guilt than by genuine concern.

It sounds like you did what you felt you had to, not from wishful thinking but for the sake of the things you felt were important to you.

-_-
*hugs*