ACCOZZAGLIA

Playing nice: my “terms of service”

I’ll try to keep things pretty simple, since the choice to register here is basically a covenant of sorts between you and me — a nod of confidence in each other, if you will. I trust you enough that whatever stuff you may be able to read, see, or learn about me must stay between us — that is, between you and me.

It’s possible you could be thinking, “Hey, but in ‘us’ there are probably other registered people I probably know, right? Can’t I discuss this stuff with them, just as long as we promise not to let it go beyond us?” Welp, as someone once said, “Intent is magic.” Someone else also came up with “loose lips sink ships.” Both are relevant here. What I mean to say is that while I can’t stop you from doing anything negligent, nefarious, or nasty, you hold all the power to break my trust in you.

So I’ve an honour system thing going here. I’ve never tried it before. If you’re not OK with that, or if it seems like too great a burden for something which seems so trivial, then maybe don’t finish registering. I won’t take offence.

I’ve an exception: within the bounds of Accozzaglia.ca, conversations are totally allowed to happen between everyone who’s registered and logged in. The scope of those discussions, however, needs to stay here at Accozzaglia.ca, okay? In other words, what’s said here stays here.

(This is, incidentally, much more than any of us can say about the Bike Pirates’ “safe space” doo-hickey on their shop wall: it wasn’t abided in 2013 by their own volunteers who should have known better. Consequently, I was subjected to a certain kind of violence which no one deserves to ever know. It may seem a mouthful to say, but such violence is called forcible disclosure. It’s much worse than it sounds. That’s sort of why we’re here today, what with making this trust agreement.)

Almost done here, but keep reading.

About this honour system

Should this agreement’s honour system be broken, others will come to learn of it, and I doubt it’ll serve one’s rep very well. Worse, trust will have been violated, should trust genuinely mean something. (For the garden-variety person with sociopathy, I’ve come to learn the very hard way through people like my mum, two exes, and the person who disclosed me forcibly in 2013, how for a sociopathic person, trust doesn’t usually seem to mean much of anything). So upholding (or breaking) this honour system can say a lot about someone and the state of their conscience.

No pressure, though. Sorry I must be so stern here. Thanks for your patience and understanding.